我的女儿，嘉雯，今年10岁，是透过我的姐姐，也是益智华小的一名老师介绍而接触A Zon生命教育学苑的。她加入A Zon的生命教育课程已大约一年半了。这期间，她参与了a级少儿生活技能艺术坊和a级儿少假期生命营。今年，她也开始接触了a级儿少生命教育俱乐部，以提升学习的领域。一年半前，嘉雯不肯到学校去上课，这情况延续了大约1个月而没有办法解决。我们尝试了很多方法，包括到庙里拜拜，见学校校长和辅导老师，也无法让她自愿到学校上课。后来，我们才发现原来她不肯到学校去的原因是因为她被老师鞭打而感到害怕，不敢到学校去面对学校的压力。
由于在家里，我们都非常疼爱嘉雯，也没有对她鞭打过，所以老师对她的鞭打造成她无法接受及无法适应。因为这事情，我带着嘉雯到A Zon生命教育学苑进行辅导及评估。与A Zon老师聊过后，我们发现嘉雯缺乏人与人沟通的技巧及表达能力。为了提升她的社交能力，我决定让她参与A Zon学习生命教育。 一开始上这课程的时候，我看见孩子们常常煮东西做家务，那时候我觉得很奇怪，做这些真的可以让孩子学习及成长吗？后来，我才渐渐发现她在性格上的转变。在生活上，她变得比之前更加自动自发，懂得做家务及生活上的自理。除此之外，她也学习问候及关心别人，在与表达能力方面也显得进步了。在这里，她也学习分辨是与非。记得有一次，她看见很多自己喜欢的书物，由于我不让她买，她便自己从我钱包内拿取钱以购买。当时，她并不懂得分辨这些举动的对与错。如今，她开始学习分析是非黑白。当遇见事情时，只要适当地提醒她，她便会思考，分析再行动。
给家长鼓励的话：
孩子们读书成绩并不是最重要的；最重要的是他们的品德。我觉得孩子的成长环境可以影响他们的成长过程。要给孩子们一个很好的学习环境，我觉得A Zon生命教育学苑是一个可以让孩子们学习成长的。
My sister, who is a teacher at SRJK(C) Yak Chee first introduced me to A Zon Educare Advisory. Since, my daughter, Jia Wen who is now 10 years old has been with A Zon for about 1 ½ years. During this 1 ½ years, she attended the ‘a Life Child Living Etiquette Program’ and the ‘a Life Child & Teen Enrichment Camp’. This year, she has been further introduced to a new program, called the ‘a Life Child & Teen Fun Club’ to enhance her level of learning.
1 ½ years ago, Jia Wen was not willing to attend school and this problem lasted about 1 month. We tried various ways of helping her, such as going to the temple; visiting the head master and counseling teacher, but all were in vain. Later, we realized that she was afraid of the physical punishment (caning) at school and was unwilling to face the stress caused by school. Because she has never been caned before at home, therefore, she could not accept the caning at school. For this reason, I brought Jia Wen to A Zon Educare Advisory for an assessment and consultation. Here, we realized that Jia Wen actually lacks the ability to communicate with others and to express herself. To enhance her social interaction skills, I therefore decided to enroll her into A Zon.
When the courses first started, I was puzzled when I saw the kids learning to cook and to do chores. I was wondering how these could help the child learn and grow. Not long after, I realized some changes in her personality. Jia Wen is more initiative and would do household chores and self-care independently. Besides, she also learns to greet and care for others. I feel that Jia Wen has improved much in expressing herself. Furthermore, she has learned to tell the right from the wrong. There was once when Jia Wen took my wallet without permission to buy the books she wanted and I believed that back then she had no concept that these were wrong behaviors. However, with some gentle reminder now, she would think and analyze the rights and wrongs before doing something.
A word to other parents:
Study results are not the most important for our child. The most important thing is their attitude. I feel that environment could affect a child’s development, and I believe that A Zon Educare Advisory is a good place to provide the proper environment for our child’s learning and development.
受访者 Interviewee： 嘉雯爸爸
