Author： Lung Ying-Tai
Publisher： SDX Joint Publishing Company
“ I gradually understood the relationship between parents and children simply meant the constant experiences of parents who gazed at their children’s distant figure as they moved on with their lives. As if when you stood at a side street and watched his receding figure eventually disappeared at a bend in the street, his figure silently told that: You don’t have to chase”, Lung Ying-Tai said. In this article, the author wrote about the feelings and a sense of helplessness of being a mother and a child, who had to see her loved ones slowly walked out of her lives. She had described about the moments of looking into her son’s eyes when they were at Victoria primary school; the lost feelings when she sent off his son at the airport; the reflections of his son’s rejection towards her; the scene of her father left with his truck after he dropped her off at college; the scene of her father who sat on wheelchair and sent back to the hospital ward by the nurse; and the last gaze at her father’s coffin slowly being slid into the furnace door of the cremation site.
The author felt her father’s love and her son’s attachment towards her, however, she couldn’t keep those warm affections in long term, she then helplessly wrote down her realization about it.
I used to get hugged by my mother every day after I woke up when I was young and I started my day with her love and encouragements. Although my father did not attend to and understand my life at all aspects, but his consideration and care towards me during my weary time assured me that my family would always be my backbone. Despite the fact that this article revealed the helplessness in life and the necessity of let go, it also reminded us to discover the love of our families.
Often, we would think that kinship might last forever because we were bonded by blood and neglected the fact that we still moved on in lives. Regardless of the times where we watched our family members leaving us or let our family members watched us leaving them, we would reunion again at the destined times. During the reunion times, you would then realize everything remained the same, however, you started to notice that the elders were covered with silvery hair while the youngsters had built a high wall to defend themselves from others. Those events were unavoidable, hence, we had to cherish, feel and remember their love and also the moments we had with them, at the same time, encourage them to face the future with courage.
—— Ms. Toh
